Staying positive and independent

Caring for a loved one with dementia can be a challenging journey, but staying positive and fostering independence is possible. Here are some ways to help both you and your loved one to maintain your quality of life while adapting to the changes that come with dementia:

1. Stay active together

Physical activity is important for both of you. It’s not only great for their health but for yours too, helping to relieve stress and boost energy. You can try:

• Going for walks together, even short ones around the block.

• Do gentle exercises at home, or join a local fitness class.

• Engage in activities you can both enjoy, like gardening or dancing.

Exercise not only lifts their spirits, but keeping your loved one physically active will help them to hold on to their independence longer.

2. Keep their mind engaged

It’s important to try and keep their mind active. Make this a fun part of your daily routine by:

• Reading together or listening to audiobooks they enjoy.

• Solving puzzles like crosswords or Sudoku to challenge their brain.

• Encouraging them to learn new skills, even something simple like a craft or hobby.

Stimulating their brain gives them confidence and might even help slow the progression of their dementia.

3. Maintain social connections

Social interactions are crucial for both of you. It’s easy to feel isolated, but keeping connections helps:

• Make time for visits from family and friends, even if it’s just a cup of tea.

• Join a social group for people with dementia or attend community events.

• Volunteer together for activities that are manageable for them.

Being surrounded by a support system reduces loneliness and keeps them engaged with life.

4. Establish routines

A consistent routine makes a big difference in managing daily life. It helps them feel less anxious and more in control. You can try:

• Sticking to the same schedule for meals, activities, and bedtime.

• Using a calendar or notebook to track appointments and plans.

• Breaking down large tasks into smaller, easier steps, so they don’t feel overwhelmed.

This structure provides comfort, making each day feel smoother for both of you.

5. Use memory aids

Memory aids help to reduce confusion and keep them as independent as possible. Some of the following can be useful:

• Label cupboards and drawers with pictures or words.

• Use a whiteboard or a notebook to jot down reminders and tasks.

• Set alarms on their phone or clocks for important activities.

These tools can help them feel more confident in their daily routine.

6. Stay positive

Some days are harder than others, but trying to focus on what they can do instead of what they can’t makes a big difference. Try to:

• Celebrate the small victories, like completing a task.

• Practice relaxation techniques together, such as deep breathing or gentle yoga.

• Keep your focus on the present and the good things that happen each day.

Maintaining a positive attitude helps both of you navigate the tougher days.

7. Seek support

You don’t need to do this alone. Reaching out for help can make you feel more supported and realise that others in your position feel the same. You can try:

• Talking to family and friends, they might be able to help with some of your caring responsibilities.

• Join support groups where you can connect with others caring for loved ones with dementia.

• Speaking to a therapist or counsellor who can offer you support and guidance.

Having a support network will give you reassurance and make you feel less alone.